The Most Embarassing Purchase I Have Ever Made……Ever!

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Like most people, I have bought some interesting/strange/embarrassing things in my lifetime.  Or is that just me?  Anyway, I’m not going to shock bore you with my list of previous embarrassing purchases, but I am going to share the item that is undoubtedly #1 on the all-time list of embarrassing purchases.

Just looking at that monkey makes me shudder.  I distinctly remember looking at those parents with kids on leashes and thinking “what in the world are their lazy tails doing, that they need their kid on a leash??!!”  I was never going to be one of those moms.  Ah, how easy it was to judge other parents before Little C came along………

My mommy/daughter adventure to the beach is coming up very soon, and after thinking through the logistics of traveling by myself with a very curious and fast little toddler, I sucked it up and pressed purchase on this leash.  Don’t even bother calling it a “safety harness”, it’s a freaking leash.  I’m embarrassed for myself.  Little C may not mind (heck, she’ll probably love the monkey!), but I know what many of those little judgmental minds will be thinking when they see us walking around the airport.  But you know what, I don’t actually care.

What I care about is that Little C is safe, and that we have a great time on our trip.  While I was never really one that was overly concerned with what others thought of me or what I was doing, as a parent you no longer really get to care what others think about you.  You care about what is best for your family.  This dang little leash monkey is what is best for our family on this trip.  If the TSA decides that I look like someone they want to get a special friendly screening moment with me on that specific day, Little C won’t be able to quietly wander away.  If she sees an ice cream cone and wants to make a full-on dash toward it, she won’t get far without me.  Heck, if she sees a real life Jessie from Toy Story, she still won’t be able to sneak away from mommy to rush over and meet her cartoon idol.

I plan to have her in a stroller for much of our airport adventure, so we’ll see how much action the monkey sees.  I am actually relieved to have a safe option for when she wants out of the stroller.  But, that doesn’t relieve the leash monkey from the #1 spot on Mommy Point’s most embarrassing purchase list.

Have you used one of the leash/harnesses for you kiddo when traveling?  What do you think when you see people using them (come on, be honest!)?  Any other good alternatives for traveling with a very mobile under-two-year-old who isn’t quite ready to obey your every command?

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  1. We used to think the same exact thing about people with those harnesses. However, we have used one since our son practically started walking. The “leash” gives our children a chance to walk and get out some energy outside of the stroller or backpack.

    We have received nothing but compliments about how cute it looks with our son with it on his back, and how people wish they had them. I do not think we have received a single rude comment or nasty glare while using them.

    In addition, the one time we did not have it on him, at Disney World at the castle lighting ceremony (Thanksgiving 2010), as soon as the show ended, our son scattered as everyone was standing up. Luckily I caught him out of the corner of my eye and ran and grabbed him. It was a split second, and if we had been using the harness, it wouldn’t have even been an issue. Lesson learned! I’ll take any nasty glare or comments over the chance at losing my child in a split second.

    • Thanks for the info! I couldn’t agree more about taking a million nasty stares over anything ever potentially happening to my kiddo. The plush backpack ones are way cuter than the straight-up leash ones. I also like that you can use it without the leash part once she is old enough to just carry a few of her little things in the backpack sans leash. Maybe the monkey and I will grow to be friends by then. 😉

  2. We have one. Our son likes it. We never got any hostile stares or comments from passerby. But, you might get a few “hey kid, you gotta get that monkey off your back” jokes.

  3. It was useful for my son when he was around 2, but he tended to want to carry the tail himself. This was around the time he decided that everytime we went walking in public he wanted to head for the nearest exit. We only used it for a few months.


  4. My now 46 y/o son, who should have been named Dash, got a full out harness and leash when he was this age after one of our ‘adventures’ when my grandmother and I were downtown shopping and he suddenly became lost when we both thought he was with the other one. Long story short he was missing for a full 30 minutes as we frantically searched the fabric store then up and down the street. There was a full on panic he was no where to be seen. With me in complete breakdown tears and my grandmother trying to tell me we were going to find him we suddenly heard some little boy giggles coming from inside the fabric store as we walked by the open door (it was spring in California and the shop doors stood AC 🙂 there he was hiding from us with a perfect vantage point to watch the hysterics from under a display of fabic draping down to the ground!!! Spank, Kiss, Spank, Kiss!!! (yes we spanked in those days) Trust me the only ‘looks’ you get are from those who have never experienced the sheer panic when your child goes missing in an instant!!! Not laziness, not neglectful, for sure. Keep Little C safe and you get to keep your Sanity!!! 🙂

  5. I too have one for my son but I got him the sheep. He is the same age as Little C and he has a balloon addiction. This has caused several almost heart attacks and many cases of running after him. He’ll spot them a mile away and we’ll have no idea where he’s headed.
    I know people who feel very strongly against the leash and feel it demeans them to animals. All I can say is, if it keeps him safe I’m doing it! My son is strong enough to get his hands free of me and quick enough to get lost-I’m not taking any chances and neither should you! Ignore the nay sayers–it is your baby.

  6. best quote ever ” as a parent you no longer really get to care what others think about you. You care about what is best for your family. ”

    I just found your blog today. I am an avid point collector, and work for (specifically unnamed) loyalty program.

  7. I bought one a few years ago for a trip. We went to the Grand Canyon (North/South Rim)…he used his stroller at times but at other times I was very nervous about him getting away from me near a drop off or something! He was fast! It gave me some piece of mind in those travels. His safety was the most important thing to me…

  8. I was in LAX at USair gates a few years ago and mommy was delayed for extra TSA attention while kid ran into the bookstore where I was browsing. I saw the entire transaction, so I picked up kid and brought her to mommy, who by now was frantic.

    She then accused me of grabbing her kid and wanted me arrested. I was lucky enough that another bookstore shopper saw me pick up the kid as she entered the store and carry her to mommy; that browser came to MY rescue.

    A leash (by any name) would have saved me some potential grief.

  9. @M, totally understand the balloon addiction! Thanks for the support. 🙂
    @NewishMama, glad you found the blog and like the quote! It is just so true! Look forward to having you and your (specifically unnamed) loyalty program knowledge with us here!
    @Kelly, I would so use one at the Grand Canyon, too! Heck, I might even use two. 😉
    @Steve, that story is crazy! I could so see that happening while with the TSA. Good for you for stepping up and helping. I’m glad someone was there to step up and help you, too!

  10. We got one when my daughter was around 14 months and we were headed to the inner harbor in Baltimore, which is you have never been is basically a sidewalk that just drops off into the deep, nasty harbor water on one side with no fence or barrier of any kind. Totally worth the purchase for that one place alone!
    We used it with her sparingly and when necessary in places like airports, theme parks and other busy spaces for almost a year.

    Now I have another young toddler and a 5 year old to watch too, so you bet I use the leash! Ours is a bear and she loves it!

    • Nicole, thanks for sharing your experience! Glad to hear your kiddo loves it! Inner harbor in Baltimore sounds like a place I would definently want to use one, too!!

  11. Ha! You make a very compelling argument for the leash… who would have thought that possible! I will remember this article next time I feel the urge to judge someone 🙂

  12. When we bought one of these beauties for our son, I wouldn’t say I was embarrassed, more ashamed that I was too lazy to run around chasing him. But people just kept coming up to us asking “where did you get that? I need one !” and we seriously considered stocking up and leaving them in the trunk. We didn’t, instead we just pointed them toward the nearest Walmart.

    For what it’s worth, he got tired of it in about 2 weeks, and now that he is old enough not to need it anymore(3 1/2) he likes putting it on again from time to time.

    • Zzd, I totally feel where you are coming from. That is funny that other people wanted one! You should start selling them and making a nice little commission. 🙂 Thanks for the comment!

  13. My parents used something similar on me when I was wee, except it was a straight-up harness, no fun animal-themed backpack aspect to it. They were referred to as reins. “Put the reins on her, we’re going out!”

    Everyone used them on their toddlers, there was no question of embarrassment or judgement.

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